Couples & Family
49 essays from the archive on couples & family.
Dianna Kenny argues that infant intersubjectivity is primordial, not developmental
Dianna Kenny, author of Bringing up Baby: the Psychoanalytic Infant Comes of Age, presents the evidence against the standard assumption that infants are ‘
Read the essayCABBY LAFFY: ‘We live in a highly sexualised culture, yet sexual issues are still shrouded in shame’
Sexual energy is potentially a free source of pleasure and ecstasy, with remarkable physical and emotional health benefits. In the UK, we seem much more li
Read the essayHendrika C. Freud on Marcel Proust, Masochism, and Matricide
The subject of the mother-son relationship had never been broached with such psychological insight as in Marcel Proust’s Remembrance of Things Past (1921).
Read the essaySupport Kids Company ‘Give the gift of Christmas’ campaign
As Camila Batmanghelidjh, the founder of Kids Company, explains: ‘We work with some of the most traumatised children and young people, the majority of who
Read the essayColine Covington asks: Why would there be so many paedophiles in Westminster?
Craving the love and devotion of their victims, it is not surprising that some culprits are politicians Home Secretary Theresa May, still trying to find s
Read the essayFrozen Children: Rod Tweedy explores the pathology of contemporary Disney
Devitalisation, Ice-olation, and Zero Degrees Princesses: Disney’s FROZEN Frozen is the highest-grossing animated film of all time, and the fifth highest-
Read the essayMarco Bacciagaluppi on meeting John Bowlby, evolutionary attachment mechanisms, and predatory patriarchal culture
Paradigms in Psychoanalysis At nearly 80, I thought it could be useful to share with readers my experience of nearly fifty years in the field of psychoana
Read the essayA.H. Brafman explores the secret language of drawings
The Language of Drawings This book is the result of a long gestation period. Life had taught me that I was a good communicator, meaning that somehow peopl
Read the essayMeg Harris Williams explains the origins of the Harris Meltzer Trust books
The Harris Meltzer Trust, by Meg Harris Williams Donald Meltzer, who died in 2004, wished that the educational work disseminated over the course of over 3
Read the essayJohn Espy uncovers the psychological ‘signature’ of the serial killer
Going beneath the skin of the contemporary fascination with serial killers: the Allure of Power, Control, Dominance ‘I hadn’t started out per se to ‘study
Read the essayWyn Bramley uncovers the unconscious processes that create or destroy relationships
Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered This book is addressed to anyone, lay or professional, who seeks to understand more of the shared unconscious processes
Read the essayCultivating a Metaphor: Smita Rajput Kamble unearths the secrets of therapeutic growth
Psychotherapy as Farming – The Story of Anna Hazare and the Healing of a Village If you google ‘Anna Hazare’ on www.bbc.co.uk , the most prominent picture
Read the essayYoga and Autism: Making a Connection, by Nicole Schnackenberg
How yoga can promote embodiment, connection, sensory integration, and anxiety-reduction in children Recent figures estimate that approximately 1% of the p
Read the essayA Nazi Legacy: The Transgenerational Inheritance of Trauma, by Vamık D. Volkan
Depositing, Transgenerational Transmission, Dissociation and Remembering through Action As a psychoanalyst, I have been actively involved in international
Read the essayThe Enigma of Childhood: How our earliest relationships profoundly shape all our later ones, by Ronnie Solan
The Space of Shared Experience and the Art of Couplehood I would like to invite you to delve right in and explore the enigma of the art of couplehood and
Read the essayMagic, Storytelling and Childhood: the origins of Rensal the Redbit, by Eugene J. Mahon
‘Once Upon An Analysis…’ The psychoanalytic voyage of discovery is probably impossible to capture in words. If every analysis is unique, the signature of
Read the essayMilitarizing Minds: Media Violence and the Military, by Lt. Col. Dave Grossman
We’re teaching our kids not how to Remember, but how to Kill Introduction Why should we study killing? One might just as readily ask, Why study sex? The
Read the essayThe Psychomatrix: A Deeper Understanding of Our Relationship with Pain, by Doreen M. Francis
It is not the pain we suffer, but our relationship to it that makes life complicated My book The Psychomatrix began with just a shadow of an idea that had
Read the essayCounselling children and young people in private practice: A practical guide, by Rebecca Kirkbride
Parents are increasingly turning to private practitioners for therapy for their children Therapeutic work with children, young people and their families i
Read the essayTherapy with Infants: Treating a Traumatised Child, by Inger Thormann and Inger Poulsen
Everything That is Left Unsaid Ties up Energy Therapy with Infants outlines a form of psychotherapy aimed at infants and young children who have experienc
Read the essay‘The lonely, isolated, unwanted, mocked, and misunderstood’: Some comments on Asperger’s disorder, by Robin Holloway
Refining the Spectrum: We Need Better Diagnostic Distinctions for Children with AS Lonely, isolated, unwanted, mocked, shunned, rejected, denigrated, desp
Read the essayCouple Dynamics, by Aleksandra Novakovic
Psychoanalytic perspectives in work with the individuals, the couple, and the group This book presents psychoanalytic thinking about the phenomenon of the
Read the essayIlluminati ritual abuse and mind control: a true story, by Wendy Hoffman
How Mind Control Programming is Accomplished and How it Works White Witch in a Black Robe: A True Story of Criminal Mind Control brings to light an underc
Read the essayBeing With and Saying Goodbye: A Reflection, by Andrew F. West
Healing Between the Lines: How doing and being go hand-in-hand My book (I feel inclined to say “my first book”), Being With and Saying Goodbye, has just b
Read the essayBeing With and Saying Goodbye: A Reflection, by Andrew West
Healing Between the Lines: How doing and being go hand-in-hand My book (I feel inclined to say “my first book”), Being With and Saying Goodbye, has just b
Read the essayDavid Bowie: Alienation and Stardom, by Rod Tweedy
Schizophrenia, Spaceboys, and the Spiders from Mars The death of David Bowie has revived both intense media interest in his work and astonishing creative
Read the essayPerversions and Paraphilias: Sergio Benvenuto asks what the concept of “perversion” means today
Sexuality, Ethics, Psychoanalysis Many deny that perversions exist. Even despite the fact that today’s dominant psychiatry has re-baptized them as paraphi
Read the essayHow Marcel Proust taught me how to detect a sadomasochistic game, by Hendrika C. Freud
Perversion serves a Purpose Helene, an intelligent hardworking woman in her mid forties, mother of three, twice divorced, seeks treatment. She considers h
Read the essayMarried Life and its Vicissitudes: A Therapeutic Approach, by Arturo Varchevker
How therapy can transform marital miscommunication into constructive communication Marital therapy has developed significantly in the last few decades and
Read the essayHad: Child abuse and the erosion of trust, by Ian Mucklejohn
The Tragedy of Crookham Court School In 1969 Ian Mucklejohn went as a supply teacher to Crookham Court School, a private boys’ school in Berkshire, where
Read the essayThe Language of Distress: Understanding a Child’s Behaviour, by A.H. Brafman
Translating the Language of Squiggles As is well known, each specialist approaches his patients concentrating on his particular field of work. If his inve
Read the essayFalse Bodies, True Selves: Moving Beyond Appearance
The Objectified Body as a Transitional Object in Anorexia and Body Dysmorphic Disorders False Bodies, True Selves: Moving Beyond Appearance-Focused Identi
Read the essayBetter Late than Never: The Reparative Therapeutic Relationship in Regression to Dependence, by Lorraine Price
Regressing to move forwards My search for healing began many years ago, when I was experiencing unhappiness and extreme anxiety with panic attacks. I ente
Read the essaySexual Abuse and the Sexual Offender: Common Man or Monster?, by Barry Maletzky
Challenging the Myths Surrounding Sexual Abuse and Sexual Offenders There are few crimes which evoke more horror and loathing than sexual abuse, especiall
Read the essayBrexit, Boris, and Betrayal: How Boarding School Syndrome continues to shape Political Debate, by Nick Duffell
Divided by education, by design, by normalised duplicity, should the UK be surprised to find itself in deep trouble? The shocking events, misinformation,
Read the essayThe Other Side of Silence, by Pauline Schokman
A story about the stories we tell ourselves The Other Side of Silence is a novel about many things; intergenerational trauma, unresolved grief, the way in
Read the essayAn Evolutionary Leap: Colin Wilson on Psychology, by Colin Stanley
The author, philosopher, and existential psychologist Colin Wilson (1931-2013) Colin Wilson was born on June 26, 1931 in Leicester—the first child of Arth
Read the essayMeltzer in Venice, by Maria Elena Petrilli, Hugo Marquez, and Mauro Rossetti
Adolescent sexuality, aesthetic conflict, and the importance of case discussions Meltzer in Venice: Seminars with the Racker Group of Venice demonstrates
Read the essayUsing Mentalizing in practice
Why Mentalization is a gift for anyone working with Trauma and Neglect The interest in mentalization as a concept has been steadily on the rise over the l
Read the essayChildren of Refugees: Torture, Human Rights, and Psychological Consequences, by Aida Alayarian
Addressing the Gap Between the Psychological Needs of Children and the Services Provided An Afghan refugee girl holds her younger sister In a world where
Read the essayAttachment Theory: Working Towards Learned Security, by Rhona M. Fear
The Importance of differentiating between ‘Learned Security’ and ‘Earned Security’ After almost three decades working as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist,
Read the essayA View from the Attic: Karen Izod on Place and Memory
The Intersection of the Timeless Moment Clandon Park is one of those landmark places on my doorstep that is part of the fabric of living, as I do, on the
Read the essayRod Tweedy
Iain McGilchrist, Ang Lee and the Revolution of Perception Ang Lee’s remarkable film adaptation of Life of Pi (2012) is a revelation both of the nature of
Read the essayDesy Safan
Music to Painting: My Encounters with Pierre Boulez I was only 19 years old when I first met Pierre Boulez. I was singing in the choir of the University o
Read the essayParadigms in Psychoanalysis
At nearly 80, I thought it could be useful to share with readers my experience of nearly fifty years in the field of psychoanalytic psychotherapy. In addi
Read the essay‘Killing them off’: The patriarchal context of the Anders Breivik report — Karnacology
Peter Aylward reveals his conclusion on the Anders Breivik Psychiatric Report 2011-11-29. The psychoanalytic psychotherapist, author of Understanding Dunbl
Read the essayMarcel Proust: the making of a sadomasochist — Karnacology
Hendrika C. Freud, author of Men and Mothers: The Lifelong Struggle of Sons and Their Mothers, reflects on Marcel Proust's relationship with his mother, an
Read the essayA free source of pleasure and ecstasy — Karnacology
Sexual energy is potentially a free source of pleasure and ecstasy, with remarkable physical and emotional health benefits. In the UK, we seem much more li
Read the essayKIDS COMPANY
CHILDREN’S REALITIES TODAY – THE STATISTICS. 3.5 million children in the UK are living in poverty (Barnados) Almost 1.5 million children in the UK experi
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